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The Famine Blog

Transitions

BY 30 HOUR FAMINE TEAM

By Tash McGill

 

Slide1I never get sick of plane take-offs and landings. The view from 30,000ft isn’t bad either, but ascending and descending, those transitional movements through vertical and horizontal space is intoxicating. I like this view of the world when I usually spend so much time with my feet on the ground. I like that I can be simultaneously moving further away and closer to something. I like take-off so much that I sometimes find myself looking forward to terrible airline coffee because it reminds me I’m in transition to someplace new.

Some people think of summer as the destination, like a reward for a hard year’s work but I think it’s a transitional season. It’s the marker between school years, when family and community memories are made. Summer is a change in routine from the rest of the year, which may offer a different perspective for a couple of months but is still just as busy, if not more so than any other part of the year. Running extra activities and programs as well as planning for the year to come.

Everyone knows that transitions are not usually easy but they are essential. Where I’m from, youth ministry stops over summer, with the exception of a beach mission trip. We even take a break from church services during the peak of the summer months, which coincide with public holidays. Maybe that is why summer seems like such a transitional time, a chance to get above the clouds and view things from above. Which is probably why I’m thinking about it now, at 30,000ft.

From up here in the clouds, I can see the broader currents shifting the harbor that seemed still like glass when I drove past it on my way to the airport. Up here, I can see the storm cloud out to the west, being pushed inland from the mountain range it formed over. In transition, I see how the landscape is shifting.

Enjoy the change in the view. Even if the view is still busy, fast-paced and with changing faces and circumstances – savor the chance to see things differently.

By the time you get to the end of summer, students you’ve known for years will have grown another foot, moved into new grades at school or left school altogether. Transitions. You may even be thinking about transitions of your own. Change is constant, but change can be as good as a holiday. It’s when we resist transition and change that it can start to feel like swimming upstream.

 

 

Regaining Your Focus

BY 30 HOUR FAMINE TEAM

focus-30-hour-famineBy John Sorrell

A while back I was sitting in a mall waiting for a friend, and decided to do some people watching. I was drawn to this lady walking toward a fountain intensely texting. I have no idea who she was writing, but I am thankful that I was not on the receiving end the textual onslaught she was laying down. What intrigued me was that she was walking straight toward this large fountain in the middle of the mall. I had to see whether she was going to notice it or not. I had to see if she was going to walk right into this fountain in the middle of a mall on a Tuesday afternoon.

She kept walking toward the fountain and furiously texting. At the last step, you know the step right before she would have half kicked the side and been off balance enough to take the splash, she noticed the water, and–bending forward while planting her feet kind of like a jack knife–she saved herself from the dive.  I was disappointed and quickly had to hide that I was watching every step while she looked around trying to see if there were any witnesses.

Then she gained composure and turned toward me to walk around the water display. That was when I saw her shirt and couldn’t help from truly laughing out loud. In huge writing across the front of her shirt was one word, “Focus!” The irony was amazing. It may be simplistic, but if you think about it the implications are immense.

We all can get focused on certain things at the wrong time. Hey, even a few of us have been that girl or guy who have walked into a sign, glass door or fountain because we were focused on our devices, or something else much more minor than where our focus should be.

This summer I’ve had an opportunity to be on sabbatical for several weeks. This has been a unique opportunity to re-focus on why I do what I do. I’m reflecting on the “why” behind my love for things like mission trips, camps, hangout times with teenagers and everything else that comes with summer (things I’m missing this summer!). The reasons we do student ministry vary in their complexity and intersect in their simplicity. My hope and encouragement is that you are able stop and refocus, if needed.

If you find yourself distracted, for whatever reason, and losing steam or feeling wiped out, take some time and refocus on why you do this. If you have been so focused on the logistics and haven’t had time to pray over how God is going to move, refocus your time and your prayers. Maybe it’s the opposite and you’ve prayed and prayed and need to focus on the details and preparation more this time around. It could be some quality time with your family or personal reflection time to help recognize areas of our life that need more attention.

Let’s make sure we are working to focus on the important things, instead of just wearing the t-shirt.

Who Will We Be in a Year?

BY 30 HOUR FAMINE TEAM

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By Emily Capes

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Every action we make affects others.

One action.

Positive or negative.

It’s pretty mind blowing if you think about it!

I’ve been serving at a new church this year and it’s been a harder transition for me then I have ever experienced. Their previous youth minister was with them for eight years. It seems like they don’t want changes. It feels like they are trying to keep me and other adults at a distance. Don’t want to answer questions. Many inside jokes. Great youth. Just…aloof.

Anyone else ever feel this way?

I’ve been wondering how my actions and words will affect them? Who will we be in another year?

Also, how do I invite these teenagers to realize the impact of their actions as well?

Honestly, I’m still working on all of this.

I don’t have it all figured out.

I’m following my gut. I’m inviting current and new adults into authentic relationship with our youth. I’m attempting to listen well, pray for their families, notice their hope, try to see them as a child of God and of course, to laugh with them.

I’m also realizing that I am learning. New ways to try to do youth ministry. I’ve gone to new ministry sites that have absolutely blessed me! I’m attempting to learn more about their community and culture. Learning so much.

Every action.

It goes both ways.

Can’t wait to see who we are as a group in a year!

Awakening a Hunger for God

BY 30 HOUR FAMINE TEAM

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By Matt Andrews

As youth workers, it’s our job to make kids lose their appetite!  I feel a slight pang of guilt when I think about the food hazings I’ve been a part of as a youth worker (a very slight pang).  I’ve watched kids eat bananas through pantyhose, and prayed for their immune systems while they ate gummy worms pulled from a vat of chocolate pudding by another kid’s stinky toes.  I’m even old enough to remember the “gallon challenge,” which starts in an attempt to chug a gallon of milk but always ends in (or near, or all around) a large trash can (it’s probably for the best that the gallon challenge has been deemed unsafe).

I love grossing out teenagers probably because I learned from the best.  I remember when my youth pastors (John and Lori) put on a “utensil-less meal” for us when I was in high school.  We didn’t know what would be served, but we agreed in advance to eat whatever it was with our bare hands.  When I told my mom what we were going to do at youth group that night she scowled, and that made me want to do it even more!  The meal was a ton of fun, but the highlight of the evening came after the “appetizer” (pudding or something) when Lori said dinner was jusssssssst about ready, as John emerged from the church kitchen in a muscle shirt with a dirty apron on, smashing raw hamburger meat in his armpit.  “I’ve got all the patties ready!” he proclaimed.

We get to gross them out, and we also get to awaken their hunger for God.  Working with teens is often about contradictions-maybe because they’re not supposed to act like kids anymore, but they’re not supposed to act like grownups yet, either.  It’s our job to make them lose their appetite, and also our job to help them find it.  My youth pastor, John, did make hamburgers in his armpit, but he also hauled me to Mexico for my first experience in service and ministry outside the U.S.  Because of him, I went from taking my faith quietly for granted, to being asked to talk about it publicly in another country with the help of a translator- an event I had no idea I would repeat again-and-again in adulthood.  More importantly, by taking me on that trip and investing in me, John and Lori sparked my awareness of a hunger I didn’t know I had.  It took some time for my teenage brain to interpret, but eventually I understood that it was time to stop relying on adults to feed me spirituality, and time for me to take some of that responsibility on myself.

30 Hour Famine is a fantastic opportunity for your group to focus on the hunger of others- but also on their own spiritual hunger.  The next time (or the first time) you hold a Famine event, don’t miss the chance to engage in yet another great contradiction: addressing their spiritual hunger at the same time you’re depriving them of food!

5 Tips for Surviving Summer

BY 30 HOUR FAMINE TEAM

By Chris Luper

surviving-summerLeaning into the pinnacle of summer, how is it with your soul? It’s a question I seem to find myself asking on a daily basis during this time of year: “How is it with my soul?” If your youth ministry is anything like the one I serve, the busyness of summer makes the “holiday season” – Thanksgiving and Christmas – look like a vacation.

Over the course of this summer, I’ll find myself attending at least one conference, a high school mission trip, a middle school mission trip, and a week long beach retreat for 6th – 12th graders. Of course, this is not even taking into account the week-to-week interaction I will have with students. Add my personal life on top of this (family vacations, yard work, etc.), being a full-time daddy of a 2-year-old and a 6-month-old, as well as devoting time to my beautiful and amazing wife. Talk about the potential for burnout!

If you read no further into this post, hear these words: Thank you for everything that you’re doing to build up the Kingdom of God. I know from experience that you are pouring your blood, sweat, and tears into the lives of your students and so I say “Thank you!”

I’m very fortunate in my ministry setting to get to interact with lots of other student ministers. Having come to that point in my career where I’m no longer the youngest one in the room, I’m always happy to share some of the wisdom that I’ve accrued. So here’s my advice for your summer: Healthy ministry only occurs when you are healthy; but how do you accomplish this? Hear are my top five ways to survive a youth ministry summer:

1. No matter how busy you are, take time for a Personal Sabbath. Take time weekly to rest and recharge and if you can, squeeze in some kind of vacation.

2. No matter how busy you are, take time for a Spiritual Sabbath. As you pour your love for Christ into others all summer long, you have to take time to fill your own cup. Take the time to pray and worship for yourself.

3. Commit to an accountability group. We all need people in our lives that can A) relate to the season of life we are in and B) provide relevant advice based off of their own experiences.

4. Remember that summer means HUGE movie blockbusters. Treat yourself to at least one movie this summer.

5. Don’t forget why you do what you do. Spend some time just hanging out with your students this summer. You’ll be amazed at the amount of discipleship that will occur through relational ministry.

Have a great summer and remember, you are a valued and important child of God!

Slurpees and Service: Making a local impact in the summer

BY 30 HOUR FAMINE TEAM

Ross Carper 

Screen Shot 2016-06-16 at 9.22.27 AMIn the summer, youth workers have a lot going on. This time of year, people often congratulate Ms. or Mr. Youth Director on a job well done: what a great school year of programs, events, small groups, etc., so go enjoy your summer break! What these people don’t see is that youth worker’s blood pressure rising because of the ten fundraisers left to do for that huge upcoming camp or mission trip.

Nope, summer isn’t a restful time for us: students have more availability, so we’re ready to share more time and significantly longer experiences with them. And those things take a lot of preparation, planning, implementation, and follow-up.

Because these “biggies” (camps/trips) take up so much effort and energy (and time away from family and rest), it’s important to keep it simple and relational with the rest of the summer. With this in mind, a few years back, we started doing something we call “Slurp n’ Serve.”

Basically, we set up an opportunity to serve with our students for a couple hours at an awesome local organization, then we go get Slurpees together afterwards as we debrief, and sometimes split into small groups for a simple discussion or Bible study.

The organization we serve offers a summer day camp for elementary-age kids in the neighborhood, many of whom experience difficult family circumstances or have been recently resettled in our city from refugee camps across the world. So our students’ job is pretty basic and fun: playing with the kids, helping chaperone on trips to the public pool, leading some simple games/crafts/lessons. Our whole job is having fun with kids and trying to give them as much love, attention, and joy as we can.

Then we go drink Slurpees and talk about stuff that matters. It’s these Thursday afternoons that I really look forward to in the midst of all the big events we do in the summer. It’s simple, enjoyable, and it really connects back to our heart for serving others—which we’ve developed hugely during our mission experiences and during 30 Hour Famine season.

A few of our junior high students posing with a trunk full of canned food they collected. And their ridiculously huge Slurpees.

Humbled to Trust Again

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Humbled to Trust Again

By Danny Kwon

For my thoughts are not your thoughts,
neither are your ways my ways, declares the Lord.
For as the heavens are higher than the earth,
so are my ways higher than your ways
and my thoughts than your thoughts. Isaiah 55:8-9

I was recently humbled “big time” by God.  I guess I am saying big time, because I was being a big jerk with a bad attitude a year ago; but God showed me again that he is so much bigger than me.

Last summer, a few months before our mission trip, our church asked our youth group mission team to transport these hand chime bells to a missionary who works in the rural areas of Hungary and neighboring countries, serving the outcast and marginalized Gypsy communities. Not only that, but our Senior Pastor’s wife–who teaches music, including these hand chime bells–insisted that the youth team who were transporting these chimes also learn how to play them and to play them for the different communities we would visit on our trip.

I wasn’t thrilled about transporting three large cases in the first place. Of HAND CHIMES!  Moreover, cutting into our mission trip preparation time was also making me feel like our team’s time was not being respected, nor my time or leadership.  Moreover, I would also have to schedule a few more meetings to make up for lost mission meeting time.  However, one thing I do know about longevity in youth ministry (21 years at my church) is that when the Senior Pastor’s spouse asks (a.k.a. “tells”) you to do something, it is a not a bad idea to acquiesce to his or her wishes.

Ultimately, our youth group not only transported these hand chimes overseas, but our youth group students, making beautiful music with these instruments, were a hit in Hungary.  Many were blessed and touched by our music.  And the gospel was shared through this ministry. This was all despite my bad attitude and resistance.

Fast forward to this summer, as we prepared for a mission trip to a country in Central Asia, where open proselytizing of the gospel must be done very discreetly. I was thinking about ways to share the gospel.  Bam…God just suddenly reminded me and humbled me.  He was telling me, Remember those hand chime bells you hated and despised? They would be even more perfect on this summer’s mission trip.  

Today, even after all these years in ministry, I am humbled again, to trust in God.  Last summer I was so upset and defiant.  But God knew better.  He was so much wiser.  His ways so much higher. His thoughts so much greater.  I look back today on my defiance and anger a year ago and I really thank God…that somehow he let me submit to him and his ways.  And ultimately, as a long time youth worker, I am reminded again, that it is not MY youth ministry, but it is God’s.  In addition, my ultimate job is to love students, but also to trust in God and his ways.  It’s not always easy.  But God shows me again and again that he is in full control of the youth ministry.  He is the ultimate youth worker.  And I just need to be humble and trust in him…again…and again.

6 Strategies for Connecting Parents to Your Big Events

BY 30 HOUR FAMINE TEAM

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by Jen Bradbury

Part of the “magic” of mission trips and events like the 30 Hour Famine is that they take place outside of the normal context of students’ lives. Often, they take place in a different location, away from teens’ family and friends. In so doing, they force teens to step outside their comfort zones, take risks, and in the process, learn to depend on God in new ways.

While we want teens to encounter God and learn how to depend more fully on him, there’s an inherent problem in this event “magic”: It usually doesn’t involve parents. Worse still, many parents cannot understand these spiritually formative events because they have never experienced them. As a result, even well-intentioned, caring parents can find it difficult to understand what happened during such an event.

Knowing this, here are six strategies to help bridge the gap that big events like mission trips and the Famine often create between teens and their parents.

1. Work to increase parents’ knowledge quotients before your event. Suggest books to read or movies to watch that relate to what you’re learning and doing. For mission trips, also suggest books and movies specifically related to where you’re going.

2. A week or so BEFORE your event, send parents of the participants a detailed letter. In it, explain what you’ll do during the event. Then share stories that illustrate the impact such events typically have on students. Explain what they can expect from their child after returning from the event. Include things like fatigue, heightened emotions, and lengthy silence as teens process their experience. Knowing what to expect from their teens after the event will help parents deal with the thoughts and emotions that follow.

3. Equip parents with questions. While some teens will want to give parents a detailed account of your event, others will not. To help parents of less talkative teenagers, provide them with a detailed schedule or itinerary as well as a list of questions they can ask teens.

Such questions might include:

  • What gave you joy?
  • What made you angry?
  • What confused you?
  • What injustices did you encounter?
  • Who’s one interesting person you met?
  • Who or what most impacted you?
  • What made you think?
  • What stretched you?
  • What did you learn about yourself?
  • When did you get annoyed?
  • When were you thankful?
  • What was your favorite day or part of the event? Why?
  • When did you encounter Jesus?
  • What’s one thing you want to do or change as a result of the experience you just had?

Encourage parents to ask teens these questions over time rather than in one sitting.

4. Share pictures. Utilize your ministry’s social media accounts to post pictures from your trip or event in real-time. Blog your way through mission trips. Seeing pictures and reading first-hand accounts of people’s experience during your event will help even those who weren’t present to relate to and understand it.

5. Host an informal gathering for parents after the event. Prior to our first international mission trip, a family offered to host a BBQ for our team the day after we returned. I jumped at the opportunity. Less than 24 hours after returning from Rwanda, our team – and their parents – gathered together. Teens hung out in their friend’s basement. Meanwhile, parents sat outside and talked. For nearly two hours, they asked the adult leaders and I questions about our experience. Doing so gave us the opportunity to talk about our trip, share our experience with parents, and relieve some of the pressure that builds between parents who want desperately to hear about their teen’s experience and teens who aren’t yet ready (or aren’t yet able) to put their experience into words for someone who didn’t experience it firsthand.

6. Host a celebration with a formal program for parents, friends, and parishioners. During the program, invite each participant to share about one aspect of the event. Also ask each participant to share how they encountered God during your event. End with a Q&A. Doing so will help parents better understand what transpired during your event and give them the ability to continue to ask good questions to help teens further process their experience.

Taking time to help bridge the gap that big events often create between teens and their parents is a worthwhile endeavor that will help translate the “magic” of such experiences into long-term faith formation.

Just Give Up

BY 30 HOUR FAMINE TEAM

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By Travis Hill

As I sit here, 7 days out from summer camp, many of you know what’s going on in my life. Phone calls, texts, emails, camp payments, transportation contracts, registrations, reminders, parent meetings, “Can my 15 year old girl bring a bikini?”, and more.

This is just summer camp.

The constant barrage of issues that arise daily at work are only tacked onto the issues arising at home. And honestly, I am overwhelmed. I pride myself in being pretty spot on when it comes to work/life balance; but this time of year, that’s thrown entirely out of whack. During those long days, the frustrations I feel from lack of parent involvement, the 13th email I have replied to today telling someone the exact same thing I wrote in an email earlier this week, the lists, MinistrySafe trainings and more, I must remember that I am not the center of it all.

I must rely on others. I must push myself out of the way to let others grow and lead. I must set aside my own pride so that people can become movers and shakers. I am but one person, not the be-all-end-all of the student ministry I call mine. How can we be true agents of change without changing ourselves, without changing the ways that we interact in groups, leadership circles, and with our peers?

I know you are busy, so this is short. So to you (and me), exceptionally busy youth worker with too much to do and too little time to do it: give it up. Give up the fight, the fight of your self. And give into the temptation to give some of this away. There are parents and leaders and even students who are willing to help you in this process. Give them the authority, leadership, and power to do incredible things.

Psalm 91:1

He who dwells in the shelter of the Most High will abide in the shadow of the Almighty.

Taking Care of Self and Family During the Summer

BY 30 HOUR FAMINE TEAM

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By Jake Kircher

With summer upon us, you are no doubt in the midst of finalizing your summer ministry schedule. Between Vacation Bible School programs, camps, mission trips and other fun outings summer can be a very fulfilling and fun time as we connect with the teens in our ministries. But that also means that this season can have times where there is extra burden on our families.

Over my fifteen years in ministry, I’ve learned (unfortunately the hard way some years) to make sure I am keeping my family in mind when planning the summer schedule. This has only gotten more important as our family has grown.  Here are a handful of the tips and tricks I have picked up along the way:

1. When it comes to vacation time, TAKE IT! Early in my career, even when I was single, I almost fought against taking any vacations. I was part time in my ministry position with a small volunteer team, so me being away usually meant youth group being canceled. My Messiah Complex said that if I canceled youth group, it would mean some kids didn’t get to hear about Jesus that week, and that was just unacceptable.

I came to realize, after hitting a massive burnout that almost left my then new marriage in shambles, that I just couldn’t keep up that kind of pace and that it was crucial for me to make sure I had vacation time to rejuvenate my own soul, which only benefitted my ministry. Whatever your church (or other job!) gives you for vacation time (and if you don’t have any, that’s a whole other issue…), take it, enjoy it and know that by doing so you are investing in your teens.

2. Save some of your creative energy for your significant relationships. From dating to marriage, my significant other has had numerous times in my career where she has told me she was feeling neglected and jealous in comparison to my ministry. I’d spend hours researching and planning super fun outings or events that would give teens a great time but when it came to my family, it was the same old same old. Or, more frankly, my friends and family simply came second. I’d hear about some cool concert coming to our area and I’d immediately think it would be a cool ministry event, rather than going with friends or family.

Make sure that this summer you plan a few outings and fun things just for you to enjoy with your friends or family. Not only is it good for you to enjoy things outside of church and ministry time, your friends and family will greatly appreciate the effort as well.

3. As your family grows, be prepared to reevaluate your summer schedule. Specifically, those of you who are in the young family stage of life, it is so important to understand that season for what it is and be prepared to change your expectations for your ministry schedule as needed. There is tremendous pressure on our spouses when we’re gone for extended periods of time; and it’s important to understand that parenthood can bring other challenges in to the mix. For many of you, it may not be realistic to do as much as you did in the summer prior to having kids. For me, I ran two different mission trips each summer prior to having kids; and when our son was born, I knew I had to scale back to only one trip since we don’t have any extended family in the area. Whatever your situation may be, it’s important that you talk to rour spouse and be open to scaling back or doing what’s needed to make sure your family is taken care of in the midst of a busy summer schedule.

It can be hard to prioritize our personal lives at times amidst the demands of ministry. But in the long run, investing in our spouses, kids, friendships, and ultimately ourselves, will make for more effective and healthier ministry as we model Sabbath and balance to the teens we work with.